Recently, I read an interesting article on the restrictions of having a “friend group”- aka: clique. Basically, the writer defends her personal desire to develop multiple unique friendships without pressure to make a commitment to one group- as silly and culty as that sounds. She also vocalizes the shame she sometimes feels bc she, unlike many others, hasn’t had or wanted one specific group of “best friends.”
Anyone that really knows me would agree that my sentiments are similar. I truly enjoy being friendly with everyone, but I have never really felt “at home” within a clique. Nonetheless, I do admire individuals that have thriving, long-term friend groups- whatever floats your boat, right? However, in my experiences, it always ends up feeling like a bit of a marriage- you are either fully in or fully out.
As crazy as this might sound, I feel like the Church (us followers of Jesus Christ) are operating in the same fashion. Like a cult, there is a more direct/aggressive “leader” with a following of more indirect/passive “participants.”
I can’t speak for other religions, but as for Christianity, the cultural norm begins with the pressure to have and even better- serve within your “church home.”
So, for the past few years we have been church-hopping to find our “home.” But for the last year or so, we have rarely even went to a church, because simply put- having one home, church leader, and congregation feels restricting.
Surprisingly, we feel closer to God, deeper in His Word, and more connected than ever before. We are still super flawed individuals who fall short daily, but God’s grace has been sufficient. Even more miraculously, we have still assembled with the Body…with and without intention! How though?
Could it be possible that Jesus is the head of the Church (us) and He sends the Holy Spirit to guide us?
Yes, I am being sarcastic- that is not a question, but FULLY the Truth. Now, God is certainly using mass assemblies of Believers to accomplish His will, but let’s remember that we are His Body- THE Church- and the Holy Spirit is able to use those of us who are not planted within four walls just as amazingly as He uses those who are planted. We just have to flow with His guidance- like His Blood that is traveling systemically through His Body!
So, I share this not to condemn churches or cliques, but to encourage those who feel Called into a “different” ways of living and serving Jesus Christ.
God works all things together for the good of those who love Him and are Called according to His purpose! Romans 8:28